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What I Wish I Had Known About Engagement
No one wants to be a bridezilla on their wedding day. I solemnly swore I wouldn’t be. And I intended to make good on that promise by controlling every little detail of my special day. Looking back, my iron fist prevented me from enjoying my special day, caused me more stress than I was prepared to handle, and blinded me to a few unforeseen after wedding details I wish I had known about.
Want to avoid bridezilla vibes and newlywed headaches? Check out the top three things I wish I had known about engagement.
As a bride who didn’t want to relinquish control over anything, I can look back now and testify to the hassle I created for myself.
I had help at gown fittings and venue touring, but I wish I had someone to tackle the annoying tasks like table clothes, center pieces, photo booth, coffee bar and a few more random planning pieces that sucked the life out of me. Allowing someone else to help with the tiny details would have saved me time, money, and energy. I thought that if I could control everything right down the font on the invitations I would free up my loved ones to help with the bridal shower, bachelorette party, and the other pre-wedding festivities. Unfortunately, my plan to control all of our wedding day affairs back fired.
I was so stressed out and nit picky about everything that I began to morph into a bridezilla. And we all know what a nightmare a tightly wound bride can be. By the time my wedding week rolled around every one close to me was terrified to even ask how things were going. My plan to shoulder the weight of all the wedding day details repelled the help I wanted rather than attracting it.
In my opinion, hiring an event planner is the best way to delegate the majority of these logistical nightmares! In fact, Blush Weddings can help you with even the most minute details of your wedding day. Looking back, I wish I had made the decision to allow a professional to coordinate and carrying out the things that drove me mad throughout the planning process. The stress hiring a professional would have saved me would have been worth every penny to keep the peace between friends and family.
- Don’t Stress
Speaking of stress, for everyone’s sake you’ve got to learn to reign in your stress! Making self-care a priority would have saved me so many headaches, literally.
Whether it’s a weekly massage or meditation and a face mask, making self-care a priority during your engagement will save you stress and energy. Not to mention the positive effects it will have on your relationships!
I wish I had realized that stressing over my big day was wasted emotional energy. I would have much rather delegated some planning aspects of the big day and spent the time and energy I was saving on stress relieving activities. By week two of planning I was totally overwhelmed. I was annoyed with people’s prodding questions, my head was swirling with to-do’s, and the misery I felt was only a precursor for what was to come.
My advice to any freshly engages gals is this, make a game plan for self-care. Devise a routine or schedule activities throughout your engagement that will help you relieve your stress. You wedding day is supposed to be one of the best days of your life. Don’t allow the stress of the months, weeks, and days leading up to your wedding date suck the enjoyment out of your engagement.
- The Fine Details Really Suck
The whirlwind of details that constantly jockeyed for my attention during engagement distracted me from considering some of the things I would need to reconcile after the wedding day. Amongst securing a venue, finding a dress, refining the guests list and confirming a catering menu, it never occurred to me that I should probably consider some of the small details involved with engagement.
Details like updating my social security card, getting a new driver’s license, securing a marriage license. All of these things affect one another, and believe me, the last thing you will want to do after planning a wedding is stress about changing your name and making DMV appointments. Remember point 1? If you can delegate some of the bigger things to your family members and bridal party, you just might have the mental space to knock out some of the small stuff.
Personally, I recruited my husband to look after the marriage license details, honeymoon specifics, and even the DMV and Social Security appointments (the bureaucratic mumbo jumbo freaks me out). I can’t even adequately express how relieved I was to already have an appointment at the DMV when we got back from our honeymoon. To already have the social security paper work in motion. To have the peace of mind that there wasn’t anything left to do but show up for our appointments and begin opening our gifts.
The fine details aren’t sexy and exciting, but knocking them out sooner rather than later will save you a post wedding headache you won’t want to endure.
There you have it. The things I wish I had known before I got engaged. You’ll have plenty of speak into about venues, photographers, dresses, and more. But who is there to help you with the not so exciting aspects of engagement? After you’ve delegated the planning priorities, be sure to make a self-care game plan and don’t forget to reconcile the details that most brides don’t think about until after their big day!
Before you get too far into the woods of wedding day planning, be sure to consider Blush Weddings to
help you conquer some of the conundrum. As experts in the field, they know a thing or two about pulling off a beautiful wedding day without a hitch! I suspect you just might get some stress relief tactics and insight on life after “I do” from Blush too.